REV AROME TOKULA ON WHAT DID I GET MYSELF INTO 16/02/2020
Great relationships are not utopic. They are possible.
Relationships work as husband and wife look unto Jesus.
Ephesians 5:21-33 NKJV
Submission is for both parties. There's a place for a man to submit to a woman and a woman to a man.
Submission is necessary for order, submission makes order possible.
There's a reason why a man is asked to leave his father and mother.
Wrong reasons why people get married
1. Societal expectation/status
There's no place in the Bible where we are asked to marry to meet up societal expectations.
2. As an accomplishment: after degrees or other achievements.
3. Ego: to win a woman especially if there's another man who likes her.
4. To satisfy lust: marriage handles sexual needs but sexual needs don't make marriage.
Look for spiritual things, soulish things you can connect to and physical things that keep you.
5. Pressure from friends and family.
6. Prophetic declaration
A pastor can counsel, but he shouldn't choose for you.
Genesis 2:18 NKJV, Ephesians 5:32NKJV
Mystery is from the Greek word, mustérion - knowledge given to a particular set of people upon initiation. Marriage is a mystery, it is sacred before God.
Different Types of Love
▪Philo - people you are affectionate with based on common ground. For example, your siblings, classmates.
▪Eros - sexual attraction.
▪Agape - Greeks couldn't believe that it exists between men. This kind of love exists for mortals who have been made immortals.
Ephesians 5:22 NKJV
Wives, you must understand how you submit to the Lord so you can submit to your husband as you submit to the Lord.
Submission exists where there's a value system. If you are not ready to place your husband in your heart as you place Jesus, you need to think again before you get married.
Don't allow what you've been through, define who you are.
Ephesians 5:23 NKJV
Husbands, the question is not whether your wife is lovable but whether you love her the way Christ loves the church.
Love is not feelings, it produces feelings. It is a set of responsibilities one has towards another.
Love exists because of a covenant. The Bible exists because of the covenant.
When you get married to someone you are getting into a blood covenant with that person. Once two people get into a covenant, God sees it as sacred.
You are in covenant with your spouse for life. The moment you speak words and have sex, you have sealed what you said with blood.
God never goes into a relationship with a man without a covenant.
What did you get yourself into? Covenant
If you have not understood agape, the person might not be the problem.